Sorting of The Mess

Bonjour

This is a shout out to all the people out there, who are trying to figure out things and a way to sort the mess they are stuck in. No matter if it is just about the kind of education you want or you don't or about your partner who isn't the same anymore or health issues or any other problem. No matter whether it is big or small. Some of you feel stupid and think your problem isn't big enough to share when others are dealing with bigger issues or in comparison to the pandemic outbreak in the world killing thousands and leaving thousands in the death bed but this never means you're not hurting or desperate or losing sleep. You're also suffering in a way and just like everyone else you also deserve to say it out loud or share or shed tears over it. Once you let it out and share it with someone or anyone you'll feel better, this maybe not a solution to all your problems or they won't vanish just like that in the air but sharing at least give you peace and you'll find your mind at much needed ease. Once you let it all out and with your mind at ease you'll think better, process your thoughts and needs better, plan your things better and execution will be a lot easier. This probably seems a para straight out of of a self-help book but trust me it isn't. This is something I did myself and I'll continue to do whenever I'll feel stuck. 

As the name suggests this one is about "Sorting of The Mess". Maybe I am not the best person to advise, not when my own life is a bit messed up but I got the mess somewhat categorized and put into separate shelves and rows and one by one, row by row I am sorting it out. It's not about putting the shit together but I've learnt it's about dealing with it, learning from it and figuring out the way to clean it before it gets smellier and out of control. As I previously mentioned about taking it out is magic well it really is, and for me, the magician is my mother. I won't lie to you it's not like my mother comes with solutions to my every problem well she really tries to but the best part is she listens like really listens and I guess that's what we all need. We all need an ear to listen to us not someone to advise us or choose the path for us but just a dedicated listener. Here let me tell you something buddy, it's not really easy to talk, to take it all out, pour your heart and share your problems. It'll gonna take some time and a lot of nerves to get loosen up and comfortable with the idea of other people knowing your fears, seeing your mess and how vulnerable you're. Maybe people will judge you for your past mistakes or some irrational decisions you made or make fun of you for your "not so big problems" but trust me taking it out and sharing is the best thing you can do to figure the things out. What harm it is in letting people judge? I know maybe I sound like an idiot but once you think a little harder over the things you might see nothing is more important than taking care of yourself, getting out of the mess as a better person and able to do everything you want. It'll be tough to be judged, hell even I didn't use to share my every fear, my problem with my close ones because of the fear of getting judged but lately, I realized no matter what you do, what you say there are people out there who'll judge you for everything you do. So, I thought chuck it, and let's do things for myself. So I put my fears, problems out there and share them at least I can get rid of the burden. When I talked to mum and told her things, my fears, she asked me why I didn't say anything sooner. She told me no matter what, one should say things out loud and that too in a sequence like what happened first, what next and what was the final blow that made you to end up in the mess. And when once you recite the problems in the sequence who'll have the idea about what to do first. It's not like you don't already know the problems, you do but the mess you're in is so much ugly that you're not able to figure out the solutions and plan the way out until and unless you don't go back to the beginning and start reanalysing the things in the sequence. And when once you have everything as the per the sequence you have a better idea about what to do first and what next. Just like I mentioned above you'll able to categorize it and put it in the shelf with the numbering about what should be dealt first and what last. 

We all have some kind of problems, demons to face and fight with. Running away or ending it isn't a solution but cleaning the shit, fighting and facing our fears is. I won't lie sometimes even I feel like running away and starting over again at some unknown place where no one knows me, but again, will it be worthy? Maybe running away will solve some of the problems or lots of them but will it help me or you to face the demons or the fears which we carry with us daily, the ones imprinted on our souls and minds? No, right. So I guess it's time for us to face things and "Sort the Mess" before cleaning it. 

Au revoir.